I came across an "old" article recently, written way back in 1999!
The title was "What do seriously ill patients want?"
It surveyed patients with terminal illnesses. The highest rated "wants" were as follows:
* Pain and symptom control
* Avoid inappropriate prolongation of the dying process
* Achieve a sense of control
* Relieve burdens on family
* Strengthen relationships with loved ones
Despite all the many advances in treatments over the last 13 years, I suspect a new survey would yield similar results.